Having a Strong Supportive Group Around You

When my 5 year relationship first ended, I felt so alone. I felt like I had no one even though I had my family around me, throughout the relationship I had pushed my friends away because I was so invested in the relationship and the person I was with, I didn't have my own friends. One day, I was feeling so low and lonely, I reached out to a few of my old best friends. At the time I felt like they were going to think that I've come running back to them because I had lost everything and I was worried that they thought I was going to be using them just so I wasn't alone. In fact, that wasn't the case. I was so lucky that they all welcomed me back with open arms and have been the most amazing support I could ever have dreamed of. I reached out to them because I wanted to start to build my relationship back up with them again because some of the happiest and best memories of my life before the relationship was with these people and I knew that they all had hearts of gold and I was in the wrong for not keeping in contact with them, I was blinded by love and forgot what was most important to me. The thing is with reaching out to people is that you really have nothing to lose. If they ignore you or don't accept you back in their lives then what have you really lost? If anything its their loss, because you were willing to make amends with them and have them back in your life and make more memories with them. You've got to remember that reaching out to people you once had in your life or to people that may not know about your mental health is only going to make you gain something, you're never going to lose anything by doing it. True friends will never let you down when you need them. It can be a hard journey to find these true friends but once you've got them, it is the most amazing feeling in the world. Sometimes just by opening up to people, it makes you realise who is really there for you as a friend and who is really in your life for fun and games and a good time. Support throughout your life and your problems is so important. Some people can face things on their own but some people can't and need the extra support from other people and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Simply just by having a shoulder to cry on and someone to vent your feelings to, it is a massive help. You are in no way burdening them with how you're feeling, you are just being a human with emotions talking to a friend about how you're feeling and real true friends will do anything they possibly can to help you. I often find that just by simply telling someone I've had a bad day is a huge relief. I then don't feel like I'm carrying around this massive weight and just telling someone that I feel rubbish and getting it off my chest is a relief. I sometimes don't even necessarily want to hear anything back from the person I'm telling it to, just voicing that I have had a bad day to someone can sometimes be enough. Find your person or people that you can talk to about these kinds of things, its so important and so helpful in your mental health recovery journey. As I have said in previous blog posts, if you feel like you are alone, you really aren't. I am here for every single one of you, even if its just to voice that you're having a bad day, or to ask me a question about something or to tell me about your worries, I will listen. We may never have even spoken before but I will in no way judge you for anything you have to say to me, I am simply your shoulder to cry on and someone to listen to you.